We recently had a death in the family as we lost our patriarch, Dave, who all the grandkids and great-grandkids simply called “Pap”. He was a wonderful man, very intelligent, caring, and soft-spoken. Dave is my wife’s father and his death was unexpected and is still devastating to our very tight-knit family.
Dave was hospitalized for one problem and while in the hospital tests found he had terminal cancer. He was at first given a few months and then the next day the doctors reduced that prediction down to days. He went from the hospital to Hospice for two days and then came here to our house with a Hospice nurse until he passed away a few days later.
Having Pap come to our house with Hospice made it nice for Ashleigh so she was able to be with him but have her bed and equipment available. We had lots of family visiting both while Pap was in the hospital and for the funeral and again having our home as the meeting place was helpful for Ash to participate.
A sad but interesting note is that Ashleigh has not been able to cry since her accident. She gets upset and tries to cry but had not cried any tears. While we were at the funeral and our cousin was singing two beautiful songs Ashleigh did cry with tears for her Pap.
It is a loss that will never be overcome but we are glad that so many of the kids and grandkids got to know Pap and feel his love for them.
We really weren’t sure how to deal with it in regards to Ashleigh because we were getting conflicting and confusing information from the doctors. We ended up just telling her everything we were told along the way. Ashleigh visited Pap in the hospital and stayed with me at home while I converted her therapy room into a bedroom for her Pap and Grandma. This allowed my wife to spend as much time as she could at the hospital.